Understanding and addressing domestic violence: A Call for Awareness and Action

Domestic violence is a pervasive issue that affects individuals across all walks of life. It's a pattern of behaviour used by one person to gain power and control over another through fear, intimidation, and often, physical violence. The impact of domestic violence is far-reaching, affecting not only the victim but also families, communities, and society at large. 

This article aims to shed light on the nature of domestic violence, its signs, and the steps that can be taken to address and prevent it.

What is Domestic Violence? 

Domestic violence is not just about physical abuse. It can take many forms, including emotional, psychological, sexual, and financial abuse. The abuser may use threats, isolation, manipulation, or coercion to maintain control over the victim. The cycle of abuse often includes periods of tension-building, explosive incidents, and then reconciliation, creating a complex and confusing dynamic that can be difficult to escape.

The Signs of Domestic Violence 

Recognizing the signs of domestic violence is crucial for both the victims and those around them. Some common indicators include:

• Physical Signs: Unexplained injuries, frequent "accidents," or signs of being restrained.
• Emotional Signs: Withdrawal from friends and family, low self-esteem, or signs of anxiety and depression.
• Behavioural Signs: Constantly checking in with their partner, having limited access to money, or a noticeable behaviour change.

The Impact of Domestic Violence 

The effects of domestic violence are devastating and long-lasting. Victims may suffer from physical injuries, mental health issues such as depression or PTSD, and a deep sense of isolation and fear. Children who witness domestic violence are also at risk, as they may develop emotional and behavioural problems, and are more likely to become victims or abusers themselves in adulthood.

Why Do Victims Stay? 

One of the most misunderstood aspects of domestic violence is why victims stay in abusive relationships. There are many reasons, including fear of further violence, financial dependence, emotional attachment, or concern for children. The abuser often manipulates the victim into believing that they cannot survive without them, creating a sense of hopelessness and dependency.

Breaking the Cycle 

Breaking free from an abusive relationship is incredibly challenging, but it is possible with the right support and resources. Victims need to know that they are not alone and that help is available. Reaching out to friends, family, or organizations dedicated to supporting victims of domestic violence can be the first step towards safety and healing.

How Can We Help? 

As a society, we have a responsibility to address domestic violence and support those affected by it. This includes:

• Raising Awareness: Educating ourselves and others about the signs and impacts of domestic violence.
• Supporting Victims: Offering a listening ear, believing their stories, and providing information on resources available to them.
• Advocating for Change: Supporting policies and programs that protect victims and hold abusers accountable.

Conclusion 

Domestic violence is a serious issue that requires collective action to address. By understanding the signs, supporting victims, and advocating for change, we can help break the cycle of abuse and create a safer, more compassionate society. 

Let’s take a stand against domestic violence and ensure that everyone has the right to live free from fear and harm.

Getting Help for Domestic Violence in Malaysia

Option 1: Contact WAO

• WAO Hotline: +603 3000 8858 (9 am – 5 pm)
• SMS/WhatsApp TINA: +6018 988 8058 (24 hours)

Option 2: Go to the "One Stop Crisis Centre" at Government Hospitals

Option 3: Obtain an 'Emergency Protection Order' from the Social Welfare Department (JKM)

Option 4: Make a police report and apply for an Interim Protection Order at the police station

Source: https://wao.org.my/getting-help-for-domestic-violence/