To the woman waking up before the sun, juggling deadlines and dirty laundry…
To the woman who answers emails by day and bedtime questions by night…
To the woman who dreams of a life filled with purpose, peace, and partnership…
This post is for you.
You didn’t get here by accident.
You studied. You pushed through challenges. You made tough decisions. You sacrificed sleep, time, and even parts of yourself just to keep everything running.
That same determination that fuels your career? It also applies to love, to friendship, to the kind of life you deserve.
Don’t dim your light just to make someone else comfortable.
Don’t shrink your dreams for someone who doesn’t clap when you succeed.
You don’t need a man who feels threatened by your success.
You need one who’s inspired by it, who prays for you, grows with you, and celebrates your wins as if they’re his own.
If someone makes you feel like you’re too much, they’re not your person.
You’re not too loud, too ambitious, or too driven, you’re just not meant to fit in places that require you to be small.
Your life is not just about bills, chores, and responsibilities.
You’re allowed to want joy. Beauty. Travel. Creativity. Freedom.
Even if people say it’s too much, don’t stop dreaming.
You don’t have to wait until you’re exhausted or broken to finally ask: What do I really want?
You can start now.
You can cry in the car after work and still show up like a boss the next day.
You can want flowers and financial freedom.
You can lead meetings and be tender with your family.
You’re not either/or. You’re both/and.
And you don’t have to explain or apologize for that.
The kind of love where you can take off your “strong woman” armor and just be.
Where someone sees the real you, the tired you, the messy you, the dreaming you and says, “I’m still here.”
Please don’t settle for breadcrumbs of affection, half-hearted promises, or being someone’s second option.
Real love chooses you every day, in big ways and small.
You are not too complicated.
You are not asking for too much.
You are worthy of being chosen, respected, and celebrated in love, at work, and in life.
You didn’t come this far just to settle.
So keep going. Keep growing. Keep choosing you.
With love,
Aya of Borneo Working Mom
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